“In loneliness I experience myself without the otherness that makes me an object and robs my freedom as subject, transforms me, without my consent, into someone that I am not and from that someone expects a constant concern as if I am to pay an unending debt to them for being someone, they have created as me without my choice.” — Salik Ahmed.
We often compare loneliness with alone, whereas these two are different conditions. Alone, in general, be defined as not having anyone around, separated, apart. Loneliness in therapeutic terms is characterized as a condition of isolation, a negative inclination to the social relations and disconnection. There will be days when you’re completely alone, still enjoying it. You’re alone eating food, watching television, but you’re happy. But at the same time even when you’re at a party with hundreds of people, fully crowded you can still feel lonely. A lot of people like being distant from everyone else except nobody truly needs to be lonely, desolate. Being alone from everyone else doesn’t basically make an individual lonely. It is the view of being distant from everyone else which makes the person lonely.
Loneliness is really an illness now, it makes you wiped out, it prompts agony and you feel undesirable. Whereas a person who is alone and separated from everyone else is appreciating his conversation, concentrating on self-esteem, self-acknowledgment, and self-development. It’s essentially what any introvert or thoughtful person would crave for or love to do. But loneliness is not a choice. Loneliness isn’t just a common human emotion, and it is being treated as a side effect of emotional well-being issues. A person is often lonely when he/she has very low self-esteem, not able to tackle situations or feels guilty of no specific reason.
Loneliness has a very bad impact on our physical and mental health. It leads us to depression, antisocial behavior, drug abuse, Alzheimer and even suicide. In fact, one in five Americans now reports having no one to talk to when going through difficult times. Their isolation is so severe that former U.S. Surgeon General Vivek Murthy recently declared loneliness a public health crisis. In Pakistan, increased use of the Internet has been responsible for increased loneliness in society, depression, distant social relations, and weak family communication. According to Former Surgeon General, Pakistan Armed Forces, Pakistan needs to pay attention to the role of social isolation and loneliness in generating mental health issues and psychiatric morbidity. More than nine million people say they are always or often lonely, out of a population of 65.6 million, according to the British Red Cross. But this isn’t it, Britain appointed a “minister for loneliness” to tackle what Prime Minister Theresa May described as “the sad reality of modern life” affecting millions of people. Mother Teresa quoted: “the greatest disease in the West today is not TB or leprosy; it is being unwanted, unloved, and unheard for.
We can cure physical diseases with medicine, but the only cure for loneliness, despair, and hopelessness is love. There are a lot of ways to deal with loneliness, some people prefer to watch a movie, others just want to adopt a pet. We need to give ourselves some time to think and identify the cause of loneliness because it will help you in on the appropriate solution. Exercising or just reading books also helps. I believe we should take this issue, seriously in light of the fact that loneliness is contagious. We should take care of our friends. Use of our words nicely whenever we’re talking to somebody because the deep down we don’t really know that the person might be lonely.