Agha Ali and his significant other Hina Altaf have landed themselves in sweltering waters over coldhearted remarks made on a nearby morning show.
Whenever there is a new couple in the news, Pakistanis of all ages and backgrounds come together to present their opinion. They can range from mildly pleasant to overly demeaning.
But hey, if someone’s going to get married, our national obligation is to give our two cents.
From the matrimony’s start to the potential (and unfortunate) end, we leave no stone unturned in passing comments and expressing our (unsolicited) judgments.
But while we tend to be a little harsh with our words, some couples leave us with no choice but to call them out on their tone-deaf and problematic statements and actions.
Exhibit A: Hina Altaf and Agha Ali. The two got married recently and in true celeb-couple fashion, attended the famous (rather, infamous) Morning Show hosted by Nida Yasir.
Talking to the host, Nida Yasir, about their life as a newly-wed couple, actors Agha Ali and Hina Altaf decided to share a request that the former had made right before their marriage. “Right before our wedding, Agha Ali showed me a picture on his phone and just asked me one thing. He said, ‘If you ever get this fat…” relayed Hina Altaf, before being cut off by Agha Ali.
Agha Ali then explained what he ‘actually said’. “Before our marriage, I only asked for one promise. I said that I don’t want anything else except this one promise,” he said before turning to Hina Altaf, asking her to share the ‘promise’. “Please don’t get fat,” said Hina Altaf, as Agha Ali and Nida laughed along.
The couple told the host about the vows the two made to each other, pre-marriage. We were touched to hear them talk about supporting each other through sickness and health, being there for the other, amongst other things. SIKE. Who needs any of that when having a ‘skinny’ partner is so much more important.
Are we surprised at a man telling a woman to look a certain way? No. But on TV? Also no. This is what we watch on it anyway.
This did not sit well with the audience. And by the audience, I mean Twitter. Ready to cancel the couple once and for all were many users, who rightly called them out on this fatphobic and problematic statement.
Some also called them out for showcasing ‘conditional’ love.
“Appalled at how men dismay women in the name of love. Love is supposed to be with you through thick and thin but sadly it has become trafficking for men to begin with. They start from objectifying your body to controlling it,” wrote one user.
Another shared how the issue hit close at home. “I’ve seen fat-shaming happen openly. It happened to my sister in front of other people. It is not okay to ask for something so unrealistic when weight gain can be caused by a number of things,” they said.
After bouts of backlash, Agha Ali took to Instagram to post a defensive black background, white font ‘non-apology.’
As a Pakistani, my need to comment on this has arisen. Yes, what the couple said was insensitive and irresponsible. But my primary concern is when we are going to stop idolizing celebrities. Every few days, we have a new exposé of problematic personalities.
Yet we hold them at a pedestal when they have repeatedly proven we should not? We need to realize celebrities are people, not extraterrestrial beings.
Plus, with the world’s current state, we should be focusing on other more important things like banana bread and dalgona coffee.
Without a doubt, the clasp has left a harsh preference for some mouths, in a general public where people, both, are decided by their appearances.
The cycle needs to end and the opportunity has already come and gone that big names adapt to the situation and utilize their foundation.
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Staff Writer – Huda